Most of us learn to love the way we learn to shop, weighing the options, checking what we get back, keeping a quiet ledger of who gave what and when. We call it love, but a lot of the time it is really just an arrangement we happen to be comfortable with or come to terms with. Sadhguru sheds light on this through his wise words, which might sound uncomfortable, but are true.He reminds us of the harsh truth that one thing most of us spend our whole lives carefully avoiding is that real love asks you to lose a part of yourself, not gain something for yourself.While the idea sounds almost reckless in a world where we want to protect ourselves at all costs, none of it is falling without any plans.
Sadhguru (Photo: @SadhguruJV/ X)
Quote of the day
Love is self-annihilation. It happens when you fall, not in calculation or convenience
Sadhguru
What does the quote mean?
Sadhguru says that love is “a process of self-annihilation,” and not an instrument of convenience. He reminds us that we cannot rise, stand or stay upright in love; we have to fall, because something of us has to give way. While self- annihilation might sound harmful, he is actually not talking about harm. He means dissolving the hard line we draw around ourselves. In daily life, this line could mean anything, be it our needs, comfort, or the plans. Love, he suggests, is the moment when the wall thins enough to let another person genuinely in. When you stop defending your separateness. A small part of who you thought you were quietly melts, and someone else’s well-being starts to matter as much as your own.
Why falling, not calculating?
He describes falling as the right description because it removes control. While a calculation keeps you safe and in charge, you stay at the centre of all the decisions. But the second you are weighing what you get in return, Sadhguru’s point is that you have left love and entered a mutual-benefit scheme. Convenience protects the self. Love asks the self to step aside. The two simply cannot operate at the same time.
Why is it important to realise this today?
We live in a culture surrounded by trends that have made self-protection a virtue, where boundaries are not worth giving over, all useful, all real, and everything else but surrender. Apart from this, dating apps turn people into options to be compared. Above all, we have become wired to optimise, to keep our exits open, and falling sounds nearly irresponsible, which is probably why it is important to understand that self-management leaves us unfed.
